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Parenting. What a journey.

The highs, the lows, the hissing of swear words into the fridge, the random socks EVERYWHERE!  (Always on my kitchen worktop...why?)

If you’d have told me back then what it entailed, or that I would now be doing it completely on my own, I might not have done it at all. But without my personal struggles and the vertical learning curve of bringing up 2 children alone, I would not now be writing the songs that I do, to help parents out and to make kids believe they can. I wouldn’t be showing up to serve the world in a bigger, bolder way. And I wouldn’t be the sparkly and joyous being that I am now.  I wouldn’t be fierce and I wouldn't love my life and my work.

You see it’s only through sheer amounts of pressure that carbon turns coal into diamonds.

Without my experiences, I would probably still be a little lump of coal - but now because of what I have learned, I have transformed my life and now choose to teach other...

Somewhere in the dark, amongst the hurt, the fear and the self doubt...shoved down there with all the stuff you'd rather be ashamed of, the things you'd rather forget, the guilt and the shame...is the key.

To the light. To your freedom. To JOY!  And all you have to do is go inside and get that key.

Then maybe turn it a little. Give it a wiggle. See which way it wants to go.

Turn that fear into LOVE. Remember who you are. Why you are here. What you are capable of. And then maybe you could find your fierce and raise a wholehearted human, because ultimately that's going to start with you.  It's why my work is as much about empowering the parent as it is the child. It's about helping them uncover their limiting beliefs, the negative stories and healing the hurt so that they can become the parent they really want to be, the one they know they can be, underneath all the stuff.

Becoming intentional about raising a wholehearted human begins with our own self care. And I don't mean...

Following your joy means something different to everyone. Everyone has a purpose, we are all here for a reason. We all have unique gifts, talents and experiences, following our joy connects us with them. Once we find our joy it helps us to help others, and be the change in the world we wish to see.

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When you forget who you are and become only what others want you to be; a mum, a partner, a role, you lose the connection with yourself. Find what lights you up and brings you joy. Find that stillness and self connection again.

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On breaking down in the hallway, dealing with toddlers, and struggling to cope. Ever had the feeling things needed to change, knowing that you needed to change your life, but didn't know where to start? You have more strength and courage within you than you realise, all you need to know how is how to tap into it.

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Is your chid using attention seeking behaviour? This means they are literally crying out for your connection, understanding and positive attention. When we bring our judgement, we kill any chance of being able to help them. The goal is secure, confident and resilient children and love for kids is spelt T.I.M.E.

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When most people think of abuse, they conjure up images of downtrodden women with black eyes, but in the majority of cases nothing could be further from the truth. Physical abuse is almost always accompanied by mental and emotional abuse, but on its own this type of abuse can be just as dangerous. In situations like this, which includes my own experiences, the victim is often already broken inside and has been for years before they have any idea what is going on. Or that they have been slowly and deliberately destroyed from the inside out, by the person they assumed was their best friend.

Interestingly, I have met many highly intelligent, empathic and independent men and women, who have been the victim of this kind of insidious abuse. This may because they present a bigger challenge, or the victim has something the narcissist or sociopath wants, such as image, status or money. Unfortunately many people go into this type of relationship believing that they have met their soul mate,...

If I asked you what you wanted for your child, I know you would want your child to be happy, but I also bet you would want them to believe in themselves.  But what is a belief and why are they so important?

Our belief’s are the very essence of who we are. They are the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what we are capable of and who we think we're going to be. And these stores are planted in our minds in early childhood. Between the ages of 2 and 7, our children are in a hyper learning phase called the imprinting stage, which is  essential for our survival. Our brainwaves are in theta, which is much slower than when we are adults and it makes us highly suggestible, but it means that we are absorbing everything around us and accepting it as fact.  It's one of the reasons that childhood is so magical. We believe everything. But that’s the good stuff and the bad stuff.  This programme is then what we use on a largely unconscious basis, to run ...

Why I'm so passionate about helping the parent as well as the child, is because what many people don't realise, is that our children swim in our subconscious and emotional worlds, just like fish swim in the sea. They absorb absolutely everything, because this is the imprinting stage, before age 7. Everything is going in. So if the parent is struggling themselves with emotions and meltdowns, or their own triggers, then we have to help them with that first, so that they can best help their child. 

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Quite often hyperactivity in children can be really difficult to handle, but it's the symptom, not the problem, It's the outward behaviour that is showing us that the nervous system has just been on high alert for too long. It's more often a sign of stress or trauma in children, which is an emotional problem rather than a physical one and it shows us a huge need in the child for connection and a need for safety, which takes time and understanding.  Our children learn to co-regulate their emotions long before they are able to soothe themselves and when we understand that, it really helps us to change our responses to our child, in order to help them feel safe. It helps us understand that we have to take responsibility for our own stress and anxiety, so that we can become the safe container for our children's emotional needs.

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